If Matt took the time to visit a Gender Studies department — despite the clear risk that he might melt like Dracula exposed to sunlight — or if he bothered to talk to historians or sociologists specializing in gender issues, he would find that most thoughtful self-described feminists see institutionalized gender as something that can hurt men too. There's a very good reason why more academic departments are being named “Gender Studies” departments instead of “Women's Studies”.
Usually the trouble with describing how Matt Walsh is wrong is figuring out how to debunk his argument without simply blaming his wrongness on the parfait of logical fallacies that he seems to be so fond of. Luckily, that’s not an issue here because Matt doesn't actually present much of a coherent argument, though, per the norm, he does engage in a number of fallacies.
Most of us don’t care that much that gay marriages be considered equal in terms of the moral perspectives of specific individuals, churches, or groups. If you want to say that your marriage is better than a gay marriage, by all means go ahead. What advocates of gay marriage are seeking is equal protection under the law for same-sex couples. That’s what we call marriage equality, and I think you ignore that because it hurts your argument.
Imagine being subjected to some seemingly small form of prejudice or micro-aggression every day of your life. Imagine not being able to escape it. Imagine being told that when you experience these things that you "need to get a thicker skin", "stop being so sensitive", or "learn to take a joke", which are all things Matt says. Some, if not most, of the people Matt is passing judgement on have been tortured with these micro-aggressions for a long time, and some are at the point where each one sets something off. Doubtless, there are people in this country who are too sensitive or get offended too often, but for the rest of us, micro-aggressions are a very real thing, and not the product of desiring pity or being bored.
For thoughtful people, the reason why male assaults on females deserve our particular attention is because there is a sad history of those in power — which for most of history has meant men — abusing those who don't have the same amount of power — which for most of history has meant women. It's the same reason that the public is so outraged by the recent Ferguson shooting. Other similar situations that involved a white victim are equally awful. But, we cannot ignore history, and there has been a long, horrible, and continuing history of oppression, discrimination, and brutality directed from white people toward black people, and the knowledge of that history colors the present.
The problem with Walsh isn’t that there’s so much he doesn’t understand. The problem is that he is incredibly unaware of how much he doesn’t understand. He doesn’t want to understand. He doesn’t want to understand you; he wants you to be more like him. One gets the feeling that if asked to walk a mile in someone’s shoes, Walsh would literally take said person’s shoes, put them on, and walk for exactly one mile. “There,” he might say, “Now do you see that you should just ____?“
Matt starts by bemoaning the state of sexuality in today’s America. You see, Matt’s a real keen observer of the human condition. He sees and knows all, including what’s going on in your bedroom, and between you and me, he is not pleased. That’s something to keep you up at night: Matt Walsh thinks you’re bad at sex. Why does he hate the sex you’re having? Let’s take a look at a few reasons.
As I write this, the Ferguson Police are requesting that people not hold protests or vigils. You tell me, Matt, what constructive things with any chance of success are left for the black community to do when no one is willing to acknowledge our pain and when the system closes off our legitimate avenues for seeking redress.
This post addresses the final aspect of Robin Williams' death that Walsh claims is intrinsic in approaching suicide and depression: spirituality. Since Matt, many of his readers, and I share similar Judeo-Christian backgrounds, my approach here stems from that common thread in the hopes of further clarifying Walsh's departure from the Christian mores he claims to uphold.